Now Hill had to tell the girl: Her little brother, the 6-year-old she had fed, bathed and babied as if he were her child, was dead. The killer was her mother’s ex-boyfriend, a convicted rapist with a long rap sheet.
Checking myself....
I’ll put an apple in my mouth right now and stfu, because comparing homophobia to racisim is kind of like comparing the holocaust to american slavery.
Both of them are tragic, but in very different ways.
And with that: Lunch!
I would actually argue that racism and homophobia are more similar than the Holocaust and slavery, but that’s just me. The only difference between someone not liking me because I’m Black vs. because I’m gay = they can always see I’m Black (i.e. my experience in the world is determined by others’ perception of my skin color). I think homophobia is almost more tragic because it people treat it as a betrayal—like the person in question lied to them about their “real life” or hid something from them. It leads people to think that if only they acted differently/thought differently, everything would be ok, when obviously (for intelligent people) that is false.
Even so, when you think of racist behaviors and ideas in a historical sense, its not that much different than behaviors and ideas about gay men and women now. That, and its not like serious racism doesn’t exist anymore. There are definitely people in this world who would look at me and despise me because of how I look. There are people who would be disgusted by the fact that I date someone who isn’t black, and there are people who are amazed that I can speak, and read, and do math, and think like a normal person. I think the major difference is that no one is going to look at a gay man or woman, and make judgments about their inherent abilities as a person (intelligence, intellectual curiosity, abstract thinking, learning ability, capacity for compassion, etc), whereas, when people look at me, they automatically make those judgments.
Come to think of it, there are people who are amazed that I can do anything, being that I am also a woman. Go figure.
1 month agoWhat do you say when a friend of yours tells you something that makes you so sad for that person, that you can’t do anything but cry?
I just recently found myself in this position. A friend of mine recently disclosed some very personal information to me and I broke down and cried in front of him. I was so sad for him, and so sorry that his circumstances pushed him to do things that he didn’t believe in or agree with. He responded by also crying, because I was so upset, and then we had a good cry together.
1 month ago
Besides the many, many ways in which this article is offensive to men, women, and anyone with a brain, this sentence stood out to me:
Outside the office, these women use their type A careerist energy to become multitasking machines—they run the board of their favorite charities, challenge their men on the ski slopes, have a healthy post-Cosmo attitude toward threesomes, decorate to Martha Stewart’s standards, make steak chili on game day, and, while dishing it out, present a solid case for why the Steelers should go for it at fourth and one.
Ladies, in order to be the perfect female, not only do you have to be professionally and physically successful, but you also have to be knowledgeable about football and have a healthy attitude towards threesomes. That one phrase caused INTENSE anger in me. Because you know, if you’re not interested in having another person in your bedroom, obviously you are UNhealthy and something is seriously wrong with you. Forget freedom of choice and making your own decisions about your own body, you big prude. Of course, that third party will be a female, preferably one your guy is attracted to, preferably one of your good friends.
All this from a women’s magazine. Barf. -M
The most vapid and senseless article I’ve read in my life. If your partner isn’t a partner, and that is what you are looking for, then get rid of them and look for a new model.
Woolie: I’m almost 30, man. I need to get my shit together. (via awesome-everyday)
AMEN. I’m working on that a little bit everyday, but it isn’t easy.
1 month agoTumblarity
Why is it you get points for recirculating the same content a million times, but not for uploading original content? Bad Tumblr, bad!
1 month agoThoughts on a tv show I've never watched
Every time I see a photo post of some of those big-titted actresses from Mad Men, I’m kinda like… man. That was a shitty time for black people. Honestly it was shitty for everyone.
Even the music was kinda bad in the 60s.
The clothes were hot. The drinks were good. The men sucked a cow nut. Jobs were shit for ladies.
But mad men is a drama, so people dig it for that.
ramble ramble ramble
I also think this every time I watch movies that are set in the 17th-19th centuries. Im like, there wont be ANY black people in this movie that aren’t slaves, servants, or african wise people. I still love them though.
1 month agoedith wharton, the house of mirth (via paperbackgirl) (via robot-heart)
Now I know I have to read this book.
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