Esprit D'escalier

"I expect my wife to “tend to the fields of my heart” removing all the bitterness and pain of a long..."

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 15:58:28 -0500

“I expect my wife to “tend to the fields of my heart” removing all the bitterness and pain of a long day so that I am still able to care for her. A warm meal, a quick back rub, and wonderful and uplifting conversation over a glass of wine may very well be all that I need to keep going.”

- Luke, commented on What Can Manly Men Expect of Women? | The Art of Manliness

This after suggesting a woman live up to Proverbs 31:10-30. I gagged reading this.

(via robot-heart-politics)

I have such a hard time with this kind of thing, because this is how I grew up. I still am a second class citizen in my family. No matter how successful I am, no matter how many degrees, or bonuses, or zeros after my salary, I am still expected to live up to the ideal of a woman who nurtures and cares for my husband and lets him feel “big” in his house. Regardless of the fact that I paid for the house, that my salary is ten times his, and that I have been working for 12 more hours than him to put more of those luxuries that we both enjoy on our table. My family’s biggest problem with the man I’m currently dating is that they don’t see him as someone who can “manage” me. Personally, I think that entire article was a crock of bullshit. If a man existed who was as caring, supportive and considerate towards me as he expects me to be towards him, I have yet to meet him. Being a woman is so much more than children and home; after spending more than 200K on my education and hundreds of hours in training, you can best believe I’ll be working and independent and opinionated and MYSELF. If you can’t deal with that, there’s nothing I can do.

A recent scientific study suggests that whiskey causes worse hangovers than vodka.

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:28:52 -0500

whiskeyandgoatsmilk:

iammattjordan:

sarahsized:

ohyeahfacts:

(source)

Especially with Goat’s Milk.

HA <3

It’s the sugar, apparently. Hasn’t stopped me yet.

I miss so many things about living in LA, but I never realize...

Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:26:24 -0500

I miss so many things about living in LA, but I never realize what I’m missing out on until I get to go home. Asian specialty markets are amazing, and aren’t as huge in RI as they are in CA.

All I want for Christmas…

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 15:07:32 -0500

All I want for Christmas…

Buzzwords of 2009 courtesy of the NYT.

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 15:06:46 -0500

Buzzwords of 2009 courtesy of the NYT.

Uh oh...

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 14:44:50 -0500

Wolf just pulled the comfy chair up to his computer…its paper writing time.

This is sad, partially because there are only a few reasons why...

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 14:40:00 -0500

This is sad, partially because there are only a few reasons why people have heart attacks at 32, and partially because its always a downer to lose someone who had their whole life ahead of them.

abbyjean: A veiled woman was out and about in Amman, Jordan....

Sun, 20 Dec 2009 10:40:53 -0500

abbyjean:

A veiled woman was out and about in Amman, Jordan. (Mohammad abu Ghosh/Associated Press) (via WSJ)

Such a beautiful photo. Her eyelashes are insane. I started covering my head a few months ago, and I can understand the sense of security a person feels when they are never seen, or when a huge part of them (their hair/part of their face) is never seen. Without a hat or a head wrap in public, I feel totally naked.

abbyjean: i’m just sayin’. This is what I have to look forward...

Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:41:37 -0500

abbyjean:

i’m just sayin’.

This is what I have to look forward to in a few days:) Lets hope I can actually fly out of the state to get there.

The Best Worst Sandra Lee Recipe Reviews

Fri, 18 Dec 2009 23:49:46 -0500

The Best Worst Sandra Lee Recipe Reviews :

robot-heart:

apsies:kittykittybangbang

This had me laughing so hard. Oh, Sandra Lee. You suck.

I’m so surprised the Kwanzaa cake didn’t make it on here. That was a hellish work of genius.

52books: This book is based on a movie that is based on a book....

Fri, 04 Dec 2009 18:57:16 -0500

52books:

This book is based on a movie that is based on a book. I’m not sure which part is more confusing.

Its actually a fantastic book. The real title of the novel is called “Push”. This book has the entire novel push plus some extra stuff.

soupsoup: michelledeluca: One day in April of 1976, Chicago...

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 20:25:40 -0500

soupsoup:

michelledeluca:

One day in April of 1976, Chicago Daily News columnist Mike Royko decided to focus on Frank Sinatra’s arrival in the city ahead of a live show. In his column, Royko described the constant placement of Chicago cops outside Sinatra’s hotel as ‘wasteful’, derided his supposed ‘entourage of flunkies’, and remarked on what appeared to be - to Royko at least - a wig on the singer’s head. Luckily for us, Sinatra saw the column and wrote this fantastically unrestrained letter to Royko in response.

Full article here and click photo to view full letter

1) I need my own stationary.

2) This is the greatest response to haters that I have ever seen.

Yesterday was horrible, I was harassed in class and called a dyke.

Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:55:18 -0500

capriquarius:

cassket:

No wonder I hate people.

People are horrible…but I’ve found that the more things like that I’ve endured, the stronger it’s made me in the long run. Hang in there!

That’s horrible! I’m so sorry that such a thing happened to you:(

OMFG. I have found the mecca.

Sat, 28 Nov 2009 18:42:22 -0500

OMFG. I have found the mecca.

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Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:56:57 -0500

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Homicide Report

Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:22:26 -0500

Homicide Report:

In my home town, obits give way for the “Homicide Report”.

Abuse is a scary thing.

Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:06:47 -0500

Abuse is a scary thing. :

Now Hill had to tell the girl: Her little brother, the 6-year-old she had fed, bathed and babied as if he were her child, was dead. The killer was her mother’s ex-boyfriend, a convicted rapist with a long rap sheet.

"This film is nothing more than a moral vacuum with a deviant message and as such should be of..."

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 13:32:01 -0500

“This film is nothing more than a moral vacuum with a deviant message and as such should be of concern.”

- Monsignor Franco Perazzolo, on New Moon.

Checking myself....

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 19:06:21 -0500

awesome-everyday:

I’ll put an apple in my mouth right now and stfu, because comparing homophobia to racisim is kind of like comparing the holocaust to american slavery.

Both of them are tragic, but in very different ways.

And with that: Lunch!

I would actually argue that racism and homophobia are more similar than the Holocaust and slavery, but that’s just me. The only difference between someone not liking me because I’m Black vs. because I’m gay = they can always see I’m Black (i.e. my experience in the world is determined by others’ perception of my skin color). I think homophobia is almost more tragic because it people treat it as a betrayal—like the person in question lied to them about their “real life” or hid something from them. It leads people to think that if only they acted differently/thought differently, everything would be ok, when obviously (for intelligent people) that is false.

Even so, when you think of racist behaviors and ideas in a historical sense, its not that much different than behaviors and ideas about gay men and women now. That, and its not like serious racism doesn’t exist anymore. There are definitely people in this world who would look at me and despise me because of how I look. There are people who would be disgusted by the fact that I date someone who isn’t black, and there are people who are amazed that I can speak, and read, and do math, and think like a normal person. I think the major difference is that no one is going to look at a gay man or woman, and make judgments about their inherent abilities as a person (intelligence, intellectual curiosity, abstract thinking, learning ability, capacity for compassion, etc), whereas, when people look at me, they automatically make those judgments.

Come to think of it, there are people who are amazed that I can do anything, being that I am also a woman. Go figure.

What do you say when a friend of yours tells you something that makes you so sad for that person,...

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:32:04 -0500

What do you say when a friend of yours tells you something that makes you so sad for that person, that you can’t do anything but cry?

I just recently found myself in this position. A friend of mine recently disclosed some very personal information to me and I broke down and cried in front of him. I was so sad for him, and so sorry that his circumstances pushed him to do things that he didn’t believe in or agree with. He responded by also crying, because I was so upset, and then we had a good cry together.